A while ago I had a parent ask me for some discipline ideas. Her daughter got in trouble at school for fighting to be the line leader. Evidently she had pushed a classmate out of the way in order to be first. The mother told me she had her daughter apologize to the teacher, but wanted her daughter to have to do something else as well. I suggested that the mother have her daughter write an apology letter to her classmate and maybe make a little gift to give as well. The mother thought this sounded like a good idea and decided to give it a try.
The next time I saw them, the mother told me that they tried it. Her daughter wrote the letter and was waiting for the first chance to give it to her classmate. The mother thanked me again for the idea and said it seemed to work well. I share this story because I think that this “punishment” can be effective in a number of circumstances. Let me explain: Continue reading